How embodied connection can help us face our social fears

Embodied connection can help us move closer to our social values and face our social fears. When we are not acting according to our social values, we are often unaware of what’s happening in the moment. Despite our best intentions, we end up acting in the same ways we have always acted.  There have been … Continue reading How embodied connection can help us face our social fears

A model for social freedom

Social Connection model or “What am I unwilling to feel socially?” Connection-Benefits us and others (we all want connection) Connection (with ourselves and others)requires contacting the direct felt sense of what we experience in our bodies and making friends with it.  Our bodies move towards pleasant sensations and away from unpleasant sensationsOur fears around connection are … Continue reading A model for social freedom

Performance vs. Vulnerability and internal vs external rewards

In earlier posts I have mapped out some habit loops and explained how our brains seek to do the behaviors that give us the biggest rewards.  This reward based learning model becomes a problem when we are always seeking external rewards to feel better.  The problem with external rewards is that they are not dependable … Continue reading Performance vs. Vulnerability and internal vs external rewards

Social connection and social habit loops (my story)

Recognizing Social Habit loops In previous posts, I have talked about how the first step in befriending anxiety is to become aware of how the mind works by mapping out our habit loops around anxiety.  If we are not aware of what’s happening, it will be impossible to change.  The following article talks about some … Continue reading Social connection and social habit loops (my story)